Feminine kindness comes from a place inside us that is hard-wired to take care of others. It’s what drives the majority of women on the planet.
It’s why in my financial workshops I refer to us as ‘takercareofers’ and why, while many moons ago, we relied on the men in our lives to provide for us so that we could take care of others.
For a very long time, this seemed to work. Heck, it works today in a lot of relationships, married or not.
However, in many circles…especially among younger women, it is considered old-fashioned. This does NOT mean it’s wrong in any way, shape or form. Many women actually still want a traditional relationship where they can take care of their man and their children.
It’s a personal choice…it’s all OK…and you don’t have to feel pressured to be one way or another. Just work it out so you’re living the life YOU want and not the life someone told you you should be living. That’s one of the most important steps to being happy!
Taking Care Of in Real Life
This drive to ‘take care of’ is also what keeps us from asking for raising, asking for what we need in relationships, asking for the sale, charging what we’re really worth for products or services we create of perform.
In many ways, learning about money for many women, doesn’t come naturally or intuitively…especially if you weren’t taught about money at home or in school. (And in my experience, financial education that comes from a parent is usually better and longer-lasting that what used to be taught in schools. Times are changing, however, and students are learning about money and investing in much greater detail these days…a very good thing!)
Many women have said to me in regard to money…
- “I hate money.”
- “I just don’t understand money.”
- “I get stressed just thinking about money, even if I have enough of it.”
- “Financial stress keeps me up at night. I just don’t know how I’m going to make my money stretch.”
- “Money makes me so afraid…I don’t know what to do.”
- “Investing is too complicated. I know too many people who have lost all of their savings.”
- “How do I even start saving when I have all of these expenses?”
…and the list goes on.
You get the picture.
You name it, I’ve heard it…in our Celebrating Women & Wealth workshops and from money coaching clients I have worked with over the years. Women simply struggle with the money in their lives and there is no cut and dry answer to their struggles or solutions to their situation. It’s all a matter of figuring out what you need to learn and change and moving forward one step and one day at a time.
Note: even though my programs are geared towards and for women, men also have these same thoughts and feelings and emotions about money.
Random Acts of Kindness
We all know this phrase. We see it on bumper stickers and posters and stickers. We hear people say it less frequently than we did a few years back when the idea was fresh off the idea train, but it’s still very much present in our culture.
The point is, if you’re a woman, regardless of your financial situation, you’re going to continue doing lots of things for lots of people. Sometimes we do too many things because we’re trying to get approval or need to help boost our self-worth or self-esteem. There are definitely situations where we need to learn to say “no” more often.
But that’s not what I’m referring to here. I’m talking about little things you do that you’re just inspired or compelled to do for someone…and often someone who is a stranger.
These are the things that give me, personally, what I call goose pimples and it’s these times when I’m really aware of my purpose at that time. I saw, I acted, I smiled.
Life is good.
Keep doing what you’re driven to do as a woman (or if you’re a man reading this!) and know that you don’t need to stop being yourself. The world depends on our random acts of feminine kindness in more ways that we can possibly ever know!